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Here is our first hen party surgery question, from Louisa Renee, 29, from London. Louisa is a lawyer who has just organised her third hen night in the past year.
Hi
I have just been asked to organise another hen night. To be honest, I can't cope with the amount of organising it takes and would really like to say no, but don't know how to tell my friend, without her feeling snubbed. Also it's so bloody expensive! help hen doctors...
Hi Louisa
OK first things first, I totally understand your pain! I feel like I should have been the understudy in the film 27 dresses because I know so darn well how the script goes.
I have had to organise 11 hens in the past few years and the longer you leave it to say no, the more you'll feel like you can't say no. So - my simple answer is that if the girl who has asked you to organise her hen is a true friend, she'll totally understand why you can't do it. If you are totally up front with her and explain that you would absolutely love to arrange her hen for her but don't have the time as work is tricky, she'll surely understand. If she doesn't then she's just being selfish and you'll need to explain that to her, really sensitively obviously, as we all know how highly-strung some brides can be!
As a softener, you could suggest asking her if someone else can organise the actual logistics of the hen and to let her let you do one aspect of the hen party/ weekend; perhaps doing some of the games (which are normally really personal to her PLUS makes you look like you have done loads of the work and been to masses of effort! Mr. and Mrs. questions are always really good for this. )
Anyway - you have to think of yourself here: remember, your bride is going to be super super spoilt so hopefully she won't mind too much if she doesn't get her own way in one thing! Just make sure she realises it's not a personal thing... but sure you will.
Love,
Hen gifts surgery.
xxx
Our Second Question has come from Caroline, 26, a film director's assistant, from Battersea in London.
Hi
I have just done a Mr and Mrs Question video for my mate whose hen I am organising. It's really funny although there are two embarrassing bits where my mates husband-to-be answers a question inappropriately. We asked him who he would like to have a threesome with and he said ' oh obviously, it would have to be Laura, wouldn't it'! We then asked him who he would shag if he had one free pass. He said Laura. THEN we asked him which celeb he liked the most and he said Scarlett Johansson, because she looks like Laura!
We have now had to scrap the whole thing as we only asked him about five more questions and it looks so lame now we've edited it all out (which we had to; Laura would be mortified and Anna, his fiance would be gutted). Anna knows we were doing it so we are not quite sure what to do now! Should we just show it to her and say it was a joke?
Advice appreciated, Caro
Hi Caroline
Ouch. This one's tricky. I mean what on earth is he playing at this guy? If he was joking, it's just not funny as it makes everyone feel uncomfortable. You know what? I reckon you can't show any of it to her. If it's disjointed she'll realised you've edited some out and she'll prob know somethings up anyway. I reckon you should speak to him alone and tell him his behaviour is not on and that you can do the Mr. and Mrs. Questions' again but that he has to behave!
I think it's totally out of order; he could well have been joking but if there is a jealousy issue between Anna and Laura already it's only going to exacerbate it. And if Laura really does look like Scarlett Johansson then it's sure as hell going to bring up some jealousy issues!
Ring him and ask to speak to him; do the Mr. and Mrs. again; perhaps do it over email and read the answers out instead of videoing it then you can chop out some of the stuff you don't want. And ask loads of questions so you have back up. And stay away from the 'who would you like to shag' stuff!!
Have fun,
Love Hen gifts surgery
xxx
